Boundaries are limits and conditions set to keep you and others safe. Learning to set healthy boundaries is an important part in the recovery process. When we establish boundaries, we are not pushing people away, but are instead bringing them closer in a way that protects all involved.

In relationships that involve addiction, it is important to set healthy and effective boundaries that help identify what is and isn’t okay within the relationship. Boundaries are an important way to communicate respect for oneself and the other persons involved because they clarify the needs and wants of all individuals involved in the healing process. Having appropriate boundaries helps clear a path for an authentic connection.

Guidelines for healthy boundaries:

· Boundaries are for personal safety and not for controlling the behavior of others

· Effective boundaries require consequences when violated

· Boundaries are fluid and need constant reconsideration: a helpful boundary today might not be a helpful boundary tomorrow

· Boundaries are not barriers or separation

As healthy and effective boundaries are set and met, there will be growing pains. Over time, however, all involved will grow accustomed to the new guidelines, and even learn to appreciate them.